Helpful Links & Resources

A carefully curated collection of external resources to support your neurodiverse relationship journey, including podcasts, YouTube channels, websites, books, and professional organizations.

🎧 Podcasts

Neurodiverse Relationships

ADHD for Smart Ass Women

• Host: Tracy Otsuka
• Focus: ADHD in relationships, career, and life
• Why we recommend: Real talk about ADHD challenges
• Link: Available on all podcast platforms

Autism in Love

• Host: Kirsten Lindsmith
• Focus: Autism and romantic relationships
• Why we recommend: Authentic autistic perspectives
• Link: Available on all podcast platforms

The Neurodiverse Love Podcast (Coming Soon)

• Host: Our team
• Focus: Practical advice for neurodiverse couples
• Why we recommend: Aligned with our manual’s approach
• Link: Subscribe to our newsletter for updates

ADHD-Focused

ADHD Essentials

• Host: Brendan Mahan
• Focus: ADHD strategies and understanding
• Why we recommend: Evidence-based, practical advice
• Link: Available on all podcast platforms

Scattered

• Host: Jessica McCabe (How to ADHD)
• Focus: ADHD life management
• Why we recommend: Personal experiences, expert interviews
• Link: Available on all podcast platforms

Autism-Focused

Autism Late Discovery

• Host: Lydia Wilkins
• Focus: Late autism diagnosis and relationships
• Why we recommend: Relationship-specific episodes
• Link: Available on all podcast platforms

The Autistic Me

• Host: Kieran Rose
• Focus: Autism advocacy and understanding
• Why we recommend: Anti-ableist perspective
• Link: Available on all podcast platforms

General Mental Health & Relationships

The Gottman Relationship Blog Podcast

• Host: The Gottman Institute
• Focus: Research-based relationship advice
• Why we recommend: Gold standard in relationship research
• Link: Available on all podcast platforms

Mental Illness Happy Hour

• Host: Paul Gilmartin
• Focus: Mental health conversations
• Why we recommend: Reduces stigma, increases understanding
• Link: Available on all podcast platforms

📺 YouTube Channels

ADHD Education

How to ADHD

• Creator: Jessica McCabe
• Subscribers: 1M+
• Focus: ADHD education and strategies
• Best for: Visual learners, practical tips
• Link: youtube.com/@HowtoADHD

ADHD Jesse

• Creator: Jesse J. Anderson
• Subscribers: 100K+
• Focus: ADHD awareness and productivity
• Best for: Adult ADHD, work strategies
• Link: youtube.com/@ADHDJesse

Autism Education

Yo Samdy Sam

• Creator: Samantha Stein
• Subscribers: 200K+
• Focus: Autism education and advocacy
• Best for: Understanding autism in adults
• Link: youtube.com/@YoSamdySam

Autism From The Inside

• Creator: Paul Micallef
• Subscribers: 150K+
• Focus: Autism experiences and insights
• Best for: Personal autism experiences
• Link: youtube.com/@AutismFromTheInside

Relationship Advice

The Gottman Institute

• Creator: Drs. John and Julie Gottman
• Subscribers: 500K+
• Focus: Evidence-based relationship advice
• Best for: Relationship skills and research
• Link: youtube.com/@TheGottmanInstitute

Therapy in a Nutshell

• Creator: Emma McAdam, LMFT
• Subscribers: 1.5M+
• Focus: Mental health and relationship skills
• Best for: Therapy techniques and emotional regulation
• Link: youtube.com/@TherapyinaNutshell

Mixed Neurotype Couples

Invisible i

• Creator: Michelle Mowery
• Subscribers: 50K+
• Focus: ADHD and autism in relationships
• Best for: Mixed neurotype relationship dynamics
• Link: youtube.com/@Invisiblei

🌐 Websites & Blogs

Professional Organizations

ADHD Awareness Month Coalition

• Focus: ADHD education and awareness
• Best for: Educational resources and research
• Link: adhdawarenessmonth.org

Autistic Self Advocacy Network (ASAN)

• Focus: Autism rights and advocacy
• Best for: Autistic perspectives and resources
• Link: autisticadvocacy.org

The Gottman Institute

• Focus: Relationship research and therapy
• Best for: Research-based relationship advice
• Link: gottman.com

Neurodiversity-Focused Sites

Neurodivergent Insights

• Creator: Sonny Jane Wise
• Focus: Neurodivergent lived experiences
• Best for: Anti-ableist perspective, identity
• Link: neurodivergentinsights.com

ADDitude Magazine

• Focus: ADHD life management
• Best for: Practical ADHD advice and strategies
• Link: additudemag.com

The Autistic Woman

• Creator: Tania Marshall
• Focus: Autism in women and girls
• Best for: Female autism experiences
• Link: taniamarshall.com

Research & Academic

Journal of Autism and Developmental Disorders

• Focus: Autism research
• Best for: Latest research findings
• Link: Available through academic databases

Journal of Attention Disorders

• Focus: ADHD research
• Best for: Evidence-based information
• Link: Available through academic databases

📚 Recommended Books

Neurodiverse Relationships

“The Journal of Best Practices” by David Finch

• Focus: Asperger’s and marriage
• Why we recommend: Humorous, honest relationship journey
• Available: Print, ebook, audiobook

“Love, Life and Asperger’s” by Sarah Hendrickx

• Focus: Autism and relationships
• Why we recommend: Practical advice from lived experience
• Available: Print, ebook

“The ADHD Effect on Marriage” by Melissa Orlov

• Focus: ADHD in relationships
• Why we recommend: Addresses both partner perspectives
• Available: Print, ebook, audiobook

ADHD Understanding

“Driven to Distraction” by Edward Hallowell & John Ratey

• Focus: Understanding ADHD
• Why we recommend: Classic, comprehensive overview
• Available: Print, ebook, audiobook

“Women with Attention Deficit Disorder” by Sari Solden

• Focus: ADHD in women
• Why we recommend: Addresses unique female experiences
• Available: Print, ebook

Autism Understanding

“Look Me in the Eye” by John Elder Robison

• Focus: Growing up with Asperger’s
• Why we recommend: Personal insight into autism experience
• Available: Print, ebook, audiobook

“Uniquely Human” by Barry Prizant

• Focus: Understanding autism
• Why we recommend: Strengths-based approach
• Available: Print, ebook, audiobook

🏥 Professional Resources

Find a Therapist

Psychology Today Therapist Directory

• Focus: Find local mental health professionals
• Filters: Neurodiversity, ADHD, autism specializations
• Link: psychologytoday.com

Open Path Collective

• Focus: Affordable therapy options
• Rates: $30-80 per session
• Link: openpathcollective.org

BetterHelp Online Therapy

• Focus: Online therapy platform
• Specialty filters: Available for neurodiversity
• Link: betterhelp.com

Assessment & Diagnosis

ADHD Online

• Focus: Online ADHD assessment and treatment
• Best for: Accessible ADHD diagnosis
• Link: adhdonline.com

Embrace Autism

• Focus: Autism assessment information
• Best for: Self-assessment and professional referrals
• Link: embrace-autism.com

Training for Professionals

AANE (Asperger/Autism Network)

• Focus: Professional autism training
• Best for: Therapist education resources
• Link: aane.org

CHADD (Children and Adults with ADHD)

• Focus: ADHD professional resources
• Best for: Training and certification
• Link: chadd.org

🎮 Online Communities

Reddit Communities

r/ADHD_partners

• Focus: Partners of people with ADHD
• Members: 50K+
• Best for: Support and understanding

r/aspergirls

• Focus: Women with autism
• Members: 100K+
• Best for: Female autism experiences

r/NeurodiVersity

• Focus: All types of neurodivergence
• Members: 200K+
• Best for: General neurodiversity discussion

Facebook Groups

ADHD Marriage & Relationships Support

• Focus: ADHD relationship challenges
• Members: Private group
• Best for: Peer support and advice

Autistic Adults & Partners/Spouses Support

• Focus: Autism in relationships
• Members: Private group
• Best for: Relationship-specific support

Discord Servers

Neurodivergent Central

• Focus: Real-time neurodivergent community
• Best for: Daily support and socializing

🛡️ Crisis Resources

Emergency Support

988 Suicide & Crisis Lifeline

• Access: Call or text 988
• Available: 24/7
• Best for: Mental health emergencies

Crisis Text Line

• Access: Text HOME to 741741
• Available: 24/7
• Best for: Text-based crisis support

National Domestic Violence Hotline

• Access: 1-800-799-7233
• Available: 24/7
• Best for: Domestic violence situations

Neurodiversity-Specific Crisis Support

Trans Lifeline

• Access: 877-565-8860
• Focus: Trans and gender-nonconforming individuals
• Staff: Trans-operated

LGBTQ National Hotline

• Access: 1-888-843-4564
• Focus: LGBTQ+ individuals
• Available: Daily 1pm-9pm ET

📧 Newsletters & Email Lists

Stay Updated

ADDitude Magazine Newsletter

• Focus: ADHD tips and research
• Frequency: Weekly
• Sign-up: additudemag.com

The Gottman Relationship Blog

• Focus: Relationship research and tips
• Frequency: Weekly
• Sign-up: gottman.com

Our Newsletter

• Focus: Neurodiverse relationship guidance
• Frequency: Bi-weekly
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⚠️ Important Notes

Resource Evaluation

• We review all linked resources for quality and appropriateness
• Resources are updated regularly based on community feedback
• Not all resources may work for every couple or individual

Disclaimers

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• We receive no compensation for recommendations
• Always verify information with qualified professionals
• Resources are provided for educational purposes only

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